The Entitlement Trap – Beat it!

 

When we were young it was kind of cute when we threw tantrums as toddlers, not getting what we wanted.  People would coo at us, maybe even pick us up and hold us, telling us in ooey-gooey tones that “you’ll get it later” or “you’ve got to wait a little while“.  Then our tears would be mopped up, our snotty little noses would be wiped, and we’d be placed gently to the ground again.

As we grew older, some of us would learn to wait our turn, be patient and show consideration for others.  Some of us, however, didn’t.  We’d continue throwing tantrums, but in more mature and sophisticated ways.  We’d continue to demand our fair share from others, but more subtly, and often without screaming or rolling around on the floor crying.  And last of all, we’d continue to expect special treatment just because … well, just because we’re us and it’s because what we deserve.  Naturally.

Well here’s the thing … you’re not so special.  And this article will explain why.

ME!  ME!  ME!

Linked with narcissism in the world of psychoanalysis, having a sense of entitlement can easily be mistaken as natural, and even healthy.  After all, don’t our parents and societies constantly tell us that “we’re unique”, “we’re special”, and “we’re number one”?

The truth is, having a sense of entitlement is a malignant form of Self-Love, because it often harms the people around us, which indirectly harms us in the long term.  In essence, a sense of entitlement is established and upheld by the belief that we are the center of the universe, and if the universe doesn’t meet our needs and desires, all hell will break loose.

This narcissistic mindset is often the result of failing to learn as children and young adults that we are not so special, and other people don’t merely exist to serve our needs and wants.

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